Wishful Wednesday

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This week I am very, very wishful..

I am once again, trying to get the kidlet to sleep through the night with out me in the room.
My last attempt just left me too exhausted after awhile and I ended up back in her room on the floor.

I coslept for a few months shy of three years, so I know to expect an adjustment but gaaah. I was not expecting to have her up every 2 hours (sometimes, we were lucky and it was 4hrs) and then asking for a nurse to drift back to sleep.

So, this week I am trying something different. I had her work on her room with me, my night amusement things are out of there. i.e flashlight, books, etc.
I had her put her butterfly wall stickers up, set up an art station for the early mornings, something for her to do. Went through her books and refreshed the bookshelf and had her choose some dolls for her bed,

art desk room

Her new favourite spot.


I also gave her the option at nap time of gate on the door, or shutting the door. Something of a trial run.
She chose the gate, I am not sure if that helps or hurts it because even nap didn’t go more than an hour today.  I wasn’t in the room. Sigh,

She has however, really adjusted to playing quietly in her room.

I gave her, milk as always before bed, reminded her that she would get a sticker tomorrow for her sticker chart if she stays quietly in her room all night and told her I was going to bed to sleep with my dolly. Lol. (We have identical cabbage patch kids in our rooms)

Here’s hoping. It’s pretty quiet, in there now.

I also had her pick out a sheet for her bed online and an alarm clock that teaches kids when they can get up by using an animal on the clock with eyes that open/close depending on the sleep/wake time set by the parent.
The monkey on a green background won out over an elephant and a monkey on a pink background.

I’m trying everything because I just can not take the floor and not having some really decent me time at night.
I’m also hoping that this will get her to willingly give up her last two nursing times.
I never thought she would go this long, but then I didn’t count on all the difficult things that we have gone through either.
The nursing really saved her from losing too much weight. Especially, while we fixed her mouth.
But I am ready to be done. But cold turkey is not an option with her. She is too ultra sensitive for that. Not to mention so am I.

I don’t believe in the  barbaric cry it out method.

On the bright side she blew me a kiss from her bed tonight with out any influence from me. *heart explosion*
She is not very affectionate with people, even me, so it’s hard. Especially when she kissed the butterflies around her bed goodnight and doesn’t want to kiss me. She has said a few times “that’s gross”.

I really, really hope my affectionate little girl comes back.


I am also wishing for some nice weather. It has been nonstop raining here for DAYS and DAYS.

I have had to get out the rain gear and just go with it because we get cabin fever really easily.

Winter is going to be brutal. I hate snow, and kidlet has not been a fan as of yet. So this winter will be another experiment for her.
It almost started this week, they were calling for snow yesterday, but it blew over. THANKFULLY.

I am so not ready for that mess yet.

How did you survive transitioning your kids to their own bed/rooms??


Wishful Wednesday

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We’re baaack! We had some unscheduled net issues on the home front but we are now rolling again and back in business at least as far as the computer is concerned. My phone still won’t connect to the darn wifi but as long as I hide it from the toddler until I get that sorted out I should be okay.

It’s been a bit crazy, and emotional around  these parts lately so the break wasn’t completely bad. In the end I would have needed it, I just don’t know if I would have taken it.

Kidlet finally had her speech and Early Intervention assessment, which gave us our diagnosis, and threw us into a whole other ball park then we were before.

We are now dealing with what has been labelled as “selective mutism

Asking yourself what that means exactly?

Selective mutism (SM), formerly called elective mutism, is defined as a disorder of childhood characterized by an inability to speak in certain settings (e.g. at school, in public places) despite speaking in other settings (e.g. at home with family). SM is associated with anxiety and may be an extreme form of social phobia according to researchers and clinicians who are familiar with the disorder (Black & Uhde, 1995; Dow et al., 1995, Dummit et al., 1997, Kristensen, 2001; Leonard & Dow, 1995).

(copyright selectivemutism.org)

My child talks at home and at the supermarket but generally, that is about it. She also doesn’t talk in front of anyone other than select people. Myself, her mimi and occasionally my roommate.

Now, because we got her assessment so fast, we have been told she has to wait four months to start any kind of speech therapy.
But we don’t even know if that would do any good, this is the same kid that went two and a half hours and didn’t utter one word during her assessment. At least until they left the room and peaked behind the viewer window.

Other than that they had no advice, I am doing everything they can suggest, I have been since she was born. You would think there would be more given this is what they do for a living. A speech pathologist should have been able to give me more research.

Instead I had to find my own case studies, trials, therapies to try, websites and book lists.
They basically through me down a dark tunnel and made me find my own way in a world I had never heard of before.

I’m frustrated, but thankfully I am also a fighter.

I am half way through my first book on selective mutism that arrived today.
Waiting on a big shipment from selectivemutism.org. The Selective Mutism manual, a picture book, and a teaching companion to go with it.
As well as a book called Can I tell you about selective mutism to pass on to family who play an important role in our lives.

I have also watched a few documentaries, \i found on YouTube. Those are a little harder. I only watch once kidlet is out cold because I bawl every time.

I did not see this coming, but I am gearing up to be the fastest expert ever so that I can advocate for her and get her what she needs.  Catching it early means we have more time to work on things and help her over come this. One step one day at a time.

On the positive side, we are now using three and four syllable words and combining her own two word sentences. 🙂
She’s also starting to sing with me more. I’m trying to catch more of it on video now so I can share it with various specialists.

One day at a time.